I replied to her with the following explanation.
“I want to be a person who can decide for himself. But my way of thinking may be inappropriate. So, even if I am confident, I would like to listen to other people’s opinions as much as possible if I can touch them. I decide what to do based on the views of others.”
After all, it doesn’t matter to the person suffering, which is me, whether problems are “normal” or “general.” However, I think this is part of the work to express myself in various dimensions, such as gender, age, and position.
Understanding myself is difficult. But I feel that making an effort to understand makes my life “deeper.”